Relationship: is your partner insecure? Here’s how to find out and handle it

When we first fall in love, the constant texts and phone calls seemed cute, but now, you are beginning to think it’s getting too much. You are wondering… could your partner be insecure about the relationship? Here are 5 signs of an insecure partner and how to deal with it.
  1. They always need your approval
    An insecure partner will constantly seek approval of their life from you. No amount of reassurance will help. They were insecure before you met them, and they’ll stay that way unless something changes.
  2. They’re so jealous!
    They’re jealous of what you achieve or do outside of the relationship. If you hang out with a friend instead of them, they’ll say you have no time for them. The same goes for a job. But it shouldn’t be a constant occurrence. If they’re jealous of your achievements or your friends, there’s a problem.
  3. You’ve always got to explain yourself to them!
The need to gather information on you is a must! They need to know where you’re at, who you’re with and how long you’ll be. If you’re bombarded with questions after spending a few hours away and it happens constantly, you know what’s up. It may have nothing to do with you personally, but it’s still annoying. It can also mean your partner is controlling.
  1. You’re made to feel bad for not texting or calling back quick enough
    For them, constant communication is a must. This is also associated with jealous tendencies.
  2. Constructive criticism is foreign to them
    Some arguments are beneficial, and actually help a relationship thrive. Others leave you two going in circles and feeling defeated. Insecure partners can’t argue usefully because they can’t rationally look at their behavior and evaluate it.
How to Help Your Partner Overcome Their Insecurities
  • Know partner’s feelings are real and not just a joke. Accept that they’re trying to satisfy emotional needs, though in the wrong way.
  • Examine your behavior to make sure you’re not the issue. Behavior like failing to deliver on promises, flirting, or embarrassing the other in public can contribute to issues. You might not even be aware of what you’re doing.
  • Make changes to your behavior to ensure trust between you and your partner.
  • Prepare a meeting with your partner to discuss their insecurities. Let them know you will be there every step of the way to help.
  • Let them know past experiences they had with other partners won’t be repeated.
  • Show your partner affection, noting whether it’s emotional or physical affection they want.
  • Keep any promises you make to your partner and set realistic expectations.
  • Seek relationship counseling if all else fails.
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